Romans 12:14,17-21 AMPC
Bless those who persecute you [who are cruel in their attitude toward you]; bless and do not curse them. Repay no one evil for evil, but take thought for what is honest and proper and noble [aiming to be above reproach] in the sight of everyone. If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for [God's] wrath; for it is written, Vengeance is Mine, I will repay (requite), says the Lord. But if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head. Do not let yourself be overcome by evil, but overcome (master) evil with good.
At sometime in our lives there will be conflicts that are unresolved, people who are determined to be at odds with us no matter how hard we try to make amends and heal the rift.
Thankfully the Bible demonstrates the best response in such situations.
Perhaps you are in such a moment - where you're hurting and are being eaten away by the gnawing pain of unresolved conflict and false accusations.
I read this and it maybe helpful at this time:
Don't be dragged into "tit for tat" recriminations, however tempting it maybe.
Don't try self justification before anyone who will listen.
Avoid rehearsing the hurt over and over again.
Just like a physical wound has to be dressed, covered then left to heal.
Commit it to Jesus and give it time.
When it's not so raw, you can begin to expose the hurt and perhaps "air it" with whoever is involved.
Above all, in spite of feelings, bless and not curse that person. Perhaps, if you can't bless, try saying nothing bad, as a first step.
These issues are real watersheds in growing up to love like God.
So don't mourn such trials, embrace them.
In my own experience, I had to give myself permission to be angry and work through that feeling of injustice etc.
But, in contrast, I set myself the goal of arriving at forgiveness and healing in the future. It's a journey not a one off mission.
It was important to keep my spiritual wounds clean and covered by Jesus' blood.
Bit by bit - time is a great healer of any hurt or conflict - as long as the temptation to rehearse the issues over and over is resisted.
Don't "pick the scab" once the healing process starts.
Remember "as far as it depends on you, be at peace with everyone".
You are not responsible for your enemy's reactions - only for your own.
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